i get emails from time to time from women who are curious about becoming an escort. in fact, most of my clients have, at some point or another, asked me how i got into escorting myself.
i think the popularity of this question may stem from the fact that i’m not a street walker…i don’t live in a rundown apartment, i don’t do drugs, i barely even drink, and i’m an educated girl. i mostly do incall, which means my clients come to my private home and see that i live in a nice neighborhood, that i have art on my walls, and that i do my best to provide them with a certain level of class that may be missing from other encounters they’ve had with providers.
so how did i end up here? i honestly don’t remember the tipping point…the thing that caused me to actually consider this kind of work. obviously i was short on money (i had quit my full time corporate job to work for myself…i had some business ideas and some money saved up) and obviously going back to the corporate life wasn’t very appealing to me.
i remember being introduced to Craigslist many years ago, but for the purposes of selling tickets or finding miscellaneous things. i also remember re-visiting craigslist and posting once in the personals section, offering to pose as someone’s “date” (non-sexual) in exchange for money (i received a few inquiries but nothing ever came of it).
somehow, at some point, i found my way to the adult gigs section of CL, and began responding to ads for escorts. truth be told very FEW got back to me. most were looking for younger (18-25) and spinner bodies. but one woman did respond and to make a long story short, i went to meet her, we hit it off immediately, and she offered me work. she had 30 years of experience and i had none. i turned my first trick for her (it was a blow job) and i didn’t run away screaming. quite frankly, i found it to be the easiest $200 i ever made (she took a small cut). the client gave her good feedback, so she booked me again. and again.
i can’t claim to have really loved the work…her clients weren’t my ideal type…but the work was easy and the money was immediate which fed right into my immediate-gratification personality type! after a few months i was making enough money to start paying down my debt and pay my cost of living, and it was a very liberating feeling to say the least.
i loved my “mentor” for sharing her clients with me and for giving me the opportunity to learn the ropes. eventually, i decided to work for myself and we parted ways amicably. and here i am today.
sound easy? being an escort comes with its share of challenges so let me address the most common issues:
1) Customer Service: if you aren’t into pleasing, don’t become an escort. Money exchanged doesn’t mean the man is entitled to hurt you or put you down. But it DOES mean that his pleasure and his needs come before yours. Some men get off on getting you off – and if they can, that’s a bonus – but never forget where you are and why you’re there.
2) See Ya! When men are horny they’ll do just about anything to get into your pants. They’re like putty and they’ll bend over backwards to please you just to make sure they get what they want. Once they get what they want, though – that is, once they cum – they will be out the door like a shot. Mr. Personal-Mushy-Passionate-You’re-So-Amazing becomes Mr. Out-the-Door-Faster-Than-a-Speeding-Bullet. You need to be able to turn it on and turn it off just like that. Which – simply stated - is harder for women.
3) Uh-Oh…Chemistry: Then you’ll have clients you actually connect with – both physically and emotionally. The kissing is electrifying, the sex is hot, and you even have things in common outside of the bedroom. BUT BEWARE! Pretty Woman was a movie because it’s just that: fantasy. I don’t have time to list all the problems a relationship like this could potentially have. I just know that, through this work, I have met some exceptional men and I am constantly having to remind myself of who i am, and who they are, and why we’re together.
4) Your Health: Imagine kissing – exchanging fluids – with multiple men per day or per week. Men going down on you, you going down on men…breathing each other’s air. The fact is, whatever’s going around – you’re going to get it (cold, throat, stomach,etc). You’re also exposing yourself to all the unknown things about your clients, their significant others, their other lovers, and who knows what else.
and lots of other stuff, including bad hygiene, calls from suspicious significant others, phone ringing in the middle of the night, stupid questions like “are you clean?”, and haggling over $20.
so why do i do it? because I can. because i have the personality type to pull it off and remain whole. because i’m as careful as i can be. because my debt is significant. because i’m my own boss and i can say “yes” or “no.” because i’m still a little bit naive and don’t believe i’ll get caught. because even after 5 years there’s still a part of me that doesn’t think of myself as an escort…just a woman who turns tricks on the side to help with her income.
think carefully before you venture into escorting. once you do it, it’s done. you can’t take it back and it becomes a part of your past. maybe try it once and see how you feel. i can’t tell you what to do…but i do believe that you always have a choice. so please – choose wisely.
